The best advice I ever got was “If you would be happy, think what you would do for your children, and then do it for yourself.”
This only works, of course, if you are physically safe, with enough money for food and shelter plus a bit of discretionary, but that’s another story.
It wasn’t even something someone told me. I read it on one of those inspirational calendars. But, being an adult, too old to be a ballerina but healthy and with a little extra money, I thought about what I would do for my non existent children, and I went for it.
I took voice lessons. I gave recitals, earning money for charities, wearing daring gowns with plunging necklines well into my fifties. I got my motorcycle license–age 49. Learned to juggle–age 52. This year, 55, I can finally do a proper split.
Which brings me to the college cheating scandal, and Lori Loughlin. It really wasn’t fair, at first, to target her as the symbol of cheating. More men than women cheated, and a man was the ringleader. Loughlin was just the most famous. Well, she was, and Felicity Huffman, but Huffman said, “You got me, fair and square,” served a week, and went on with life.
Loughlin doubled down that she had done nothing wrong, which is the weirdest thing I have ever seen from someone who not only knew her daughters did not row crew, but encouraged them to lie about it. Covering for your child is misguided protection, but telling them to lie? Does that ever end well?
I became so fascinated that I watched old YouTube vids of Loughlin, from long before the scandal, talking about her daughters. Again and again she said that because she and her husband had never gone to college, she wanted her girls to have that opportunity.
If ever a person could do for herself what she hoped for her children, it is Loughlin. She has money. She can make time. She could probably even have gotten real-life credits for math courses, since she made a bazillion dollars on her acting and watched her daughter get a career in make up videos.
Is it hard to be an adult student? Well, yes. My first Master’s was earned when I was thirty two, and my next I was about fifty.
It is hard to be in school when you are going grey. Yet I feel confident that late life school is easier than late life prison. And there is a good chance that is where Loughlin is headed.
I have to conclude that Loughlin didn’t want education for her daughters, but the paper chase. Possibly the connection chase.
But she didn’t, doesn’t, really value EDUCATION. Not even at five hundred thousand dollars of it. Education has no value for her at all.